NOT LOVE, IS THE ANSWER
People say love is the answer. Love is not the answer. It is common knowledge
and everyday observance that people often hurt the ones they love the most most
terribly, most cruelly and most especially.
love of miserable people is terrible and cruel, intense though it may be.
Happiness is the answer.
is a fantasy to think we are capable of Unconditional Love without first having
the Self-mastery to induce and sustain Joy in our Hearts at will.
is not a matter of free choice. We "fall in love". We fall in love
with those who we do, often despite knowing that that love is toxic and will
come to naught but misery.
love our children because they were given to us.
are attracted to whom and what we are attracted without active participation.
Yes, we "fall" in love - often in a blind stumble.
spurned or unrequited lover may strike out in bitterness and even violence and
ability to attain and sustain unconditional Joy in the heart, on the other
hand, is never haphazard and never just occurs to us. We never fall into
ongoing, unconditional Happiness. Happiness that is independent of
circumstances and does not waver with the vagaries of fortune is always an act
of Supreme Will and Self-discipline.
is only when we have mastered our Hearts to the extent necessary to attain and
sustain Joy in the heart that we can be trusted to love in a healthy and
who are in a state of Joy are never driven to seek revenge or harm. We may be
madly in love. We may be blindly in love.
on the other hand, gives us wisdom and insight. No one was ever driven to the
brink of destruction or Self-destruction by Joy.
one ever said: Joy hurts.
It may be said that those who act obsessively do not really love and that is
true, but what is preventing them from really loving is their misery.
beginning of Wisdom is Joy, not Love. From the state of Joy, true, constant,
mature, healthy Love follows as a matter of course. Rarely does Love create
ongoing Happiness in and of itself in a person who is not possessed of Joy.