There are those who would "comfort" us with "teachings" such as these:
"The greatest happiness you can have is knowing that you do not necessarily require happiness." - William Saroyan
and worse still:
"And this is the noble truth of the arising of sorrow. It arises from craving...
And this is the noble truth of the stopping of sorrow. It is the complete stopping of that craving...being emancipated from it." - The Pali Canon
While there is certainly much wisdom in being emancipated from the craving for incidentals and luxuries, one can hardly be expected to be "emancipated" for the craving for bread or love.
The resignation with which we have been taught to regard our being damned to living lives and then going silently to our graves without ever knowing the love we need is beyond perversion, beyond cruelty, on the part of those in whose diseased minds and twisted hearts the concept of resignation arose and those who perpetuate the lie.
Never can the need for love be surrendered and there can be no emancipation from it any more than we can be emancipated from out need for physical sustenance.
And it is you men who must be the first to demand and reclaim those most basic rights. Women of their nature never can become very alienated from the need for love. We transvalue it into depression, we sublimate it into saint-like dutifulness, but the feeling is never very far from conscious awareness and we can, and do, access it.
It is primarily the men who have been emasculated of their love. The fight, then, must be primarily yours.
Doreen Ellen Bell-Dotan, Tzfat, Israel